Love Alchemy is a tantra-inspired couples retreat in Ashland, Oregon for committed partners who want to reconnect, repair, and reignite intimacy . Over 4 days / 3 nights , you'll learn consent-first somatic intimacy practices , science-backed communication tools, and simple relationship rituals—plus enjoy curated dates, spa support, and private time to integrate everything together.
This retreat is so popular we decide to run it year round. Call us to book a private retreat for the two of you of check out the group dates. A 4-day / 3-night, all-inclusive couples retreat designed to rekindle intimacy with consent-first somatic practices, communication tools, and guided date experiences. $4885
Couples Retreat and Tantra Workshop This Monogamous Couples Retreat promotes a tantra-inspired connection with your partner, in Ashland, Oregon, designed to deepen connection and intimacy between couples. It emphasizes the integration of sacred practices and scientific insights to enhance love and pleasure. Participants will learn various tools for emotional intelligence, communication, and sexual exploration. The retreat includes guided practices, rituals, and opportunities for personal healing, all within a safe and consensual environment. Over four days, couples will engage in activities that foster connection, empowerment, and the rekindling of their romantic spark
All-inclusive for two includes: Private room + en-suite bathroom (3 nights), All workshops + guided couple practices, Gourmet breakfasts + lunches + dinners (mix of on-site + curated local restaurants), Couples massage (included), "Healing Waters" date + private soaking time + meal, Gift certificate for a local intimacy boutique (optional + gentle), Taxes + gratuities included
Investment: $4,885 per couple (4 days / 3 nights). Call or email to ask about seasonal specials.
2026 dates: Feb 10th-13th, March 27-30th, Nov 10-13th, extra nights for $297
Immersive Experience Limited to 4 couples • private rooms with en-suite baths • small-group workshops + private couple time. At our exclusive Immersive Retreats, embrace a unique experience where you and your partner are surrounded by like-minded couples, all sharing in this journey together. We welcome up to 5 couples, each enjoying their own serene private room with an en-suite bathroom. Indulge in engaging group workshops while also cherishing intimate one-on-one moments with your loved one. Romantic dates and heartfelt connections await you at every turn. With everything thoughtfully included, all you need to do is arrive and immerse yourselves in the magic!
Hosted at Oregon Wellness Retreat in Ashland, Oregon (boutique inn setting)
Rekindle Your Spark: Where Sacred Meets Science and Love Meets Pleasure Sacred meets science. Pleasure meets power. Love takes root. Rekindle your spark at a tantra-inspired retreat in Ashland, Oregon, designed as a journey into deeper connection and intimacy. You'll learn how to keep both love and libido flowing with somatic intimacy tools, heart-opening rituals, science-backed insights, and sacred reminders that your desire is divine. Note: Here "Tantra" refers to neo-tantra, ancient concepts blended with modern psychotherapy and nervous-system science. No gurus; experience is our teacher. This retreat blends neo-tantra, somatic relationship tools, and nervous-system-friendly practices —with a consent-first, shame-free approach (no gurus; guided skill-building).
Meet Your Guides Melanie Bonk — Certified Love, Sex & Relationship Coach • Somatic trauma-informed • Sexual empowerment guide John-Adam Bonk, MD — ER physician • tantra/embodiment practitioner
Sex Coach Melanie Bonk and Dr. John Adam Bonk Melanie Bonk is a Certified Love, Sex & Relationship Coach, Somatic Trauma-Informed Therapist, and Sexual Empowerment Guide with nearly three decades of lived partnership. A wife of 26+ years and mama of four boys (and a CrossFit coach), she brings real-life devotion, humor, and grit, so intimacy skills work in the wild, not just on the mat. Rooted in tantric wisdom and somatic psychology, Melanie's BONK BETTER method blends science-backed tools, nervous-system regulation, soulful communication, and sacred pleasure practices. Her facilitation is consent-first and shame-free: you choose your pace, your edges, and every "no" is holy. (And yes, she sometimes spins as a Pleasure Priestess DJ - because ritual can be rhythmic.)
John-Adam Bonk, MD has served patients in the Emergency Department for 20+ years, tending to people on their hardest days with steadiness, clarity, and care. That frontline experience trained him to read nervous systems quickly, de-escalate intensity, and create calm in the storm—skills he now brings to intimacy work. For the past 5+ years, he's practiced tantra and embodiment alongside Melanie, exploring presence, breath, movement, and repair as practical, everyday love skills.
Meet your hosts Billy and Jacqui are passionate individuals who founded a retreat business in beautiful Ashland. Their innovative leadership and coaching approach inspires guests to harness their strengths and advocate for themselves in a warm, encouraging environment. Having learned from their own journeys, they are dedicated to helping others navigate life's complexities with empathy and understanding. Their commitment to continuous learning fuels their exploration of new ideas, enriching their retreats. At the core of their mission is creating a safe space for self-discovery. With confidence and sincerity, they invite you to join them in uncovering your true self and achieving their goals, transforming challenges into opportunities for empowerment and fulfillment.
Incredible Workshops for you and your Love Your guide masterfully weaves soulful communication , somatic healing , and pleasure re-discovery into a vibrant tapestry of connection, empowerment, and ecstatic embodiment. Imagine the hottest date nights with the deepest conversations …an epic romantic adventure woven with emotional, intimate, and relational mastery tools built for real life.
What a Tantra-Inspired Retreat Can Bring to a Relationship For the Two of You: Expand emotional, physical, and energetic intimacy through aligned mind–body practices. Learn science-backed communication tools for navigating difficult, heated, or vulnerable conversations. Develop emotional intelligence skills to recognize triggers early and regulate the nervous system together. Explore tantra-inspired sexuality by awakening pleasure, presence, and connection from the inside out. Heal past relationship wounds with compassion, attunement, and practical relational tools. Share shadow, desire, and truth in ways that feel safe, non-performative, and free of pressure or rejection . Cultivate erotic confidence by becoming the authority of your own desire. Discover new ways to touch, receive, and connect that deepen intimacy and expand Eros. Practice tantric breathwork to support full-body sensation, relaxation, and shared energetic flow. Engage in reverent, playful rituals that honor one another through presence, respect, and devotion. Anchor simple rituals you can bring home to infuse everyday life with meaning and magic.
These tools are designed for couples who want more than a getaway—this is a relationship skills retreat centered on emotional safety, erotic confidence, and conscious communication
A Guided Journey - What You'll Experience Love Alchemy begins with: Co-creating a consent-first container , including a simple plan for moments of trigger or nervous-system overload. We honor bodies, boundaries, and venue guidelines; anything beyond the facilitated container belongs in your private room time. The focus is connection, safety, and transformation , not performance. Over 4 days / 3 nights, you'll explore · Tantric breath and energy practices to shift stress → spark and amplify connection · Sacred touch sequences are clearly guided, practicing consent-first with easy check-ins · Soulful communication labs that build safety, clarity, and turn-on so you feel seen and understood. · Group devotion ritual to anchor presence, play, and reverence as lovers · Guided sessions with Melanie Bonk, Somatic Sexuality & Relationship Coach · Breath work, sacred touch, energy practices, and communication labs · Sound-bowl immersion for deep nervous-system regulation. Sound therapy can enhance couples' connections by synchronizing heartbeats and promoting intimacy. It helps reduce stress and improve communication, making it easier to bond. · One private couples massage per couple, by OWR's professional LMT's · Sexy field trip and gift certificate to a curated local intimacy boutique (lingerie & pleasure tools), gentle, optional, and fun · Healing Waters Date with private soaking time and a meal with drinks · 3 nights in your beautiful private room at the Inn. · Multi-course group breakfast each morning at the Inn. Special diets can be accommodated · Lunches. Catered in or out at local restaurants · Dinner each evening. Group Banquet on the first night. Private date dinners at local favorite restaurants following evenings. · 24-hour coffee, tea, hot chocolate bar, help yourself
Optional Add-On: Private 1-on-1 session with Melanie - $200/90 minutes Deep, confidential support for tender topics or trauma healing (individual or together). Somatic tools help rewire neural pathways for love, safety, and compassion.
Comfort, Clothing & Boundaries Workshops:You choose your comfort level within venue guidelines. Exploration beyond guided sessions is private. Other: In Oregon we always suggest to pack light layers. You never know what the weather will bring. Grab a swim suit, walking shoes, something nice for dinner out , and comfy wear. Along with anything else that makes you feel good and smile!
Who This Retreat Is For Couples of any legal age or stage seeking a couples retreat in Oregon to reconnect, repair, and reignite intimacy, especially if life has slipped toward "roommate mode." Perfect for committed brand-new duos who want skills early and long-time partners ready to go deeper than ever. All couples are welcome Location: Ashland, Oregon All you need is a shared commitment to one another, the process, and love itself. No experience necessary . You'll be guided step-by-step and take practices home. Location: Ashland, Oregon Private Time + Integration Held in the sacred mountain ranges of Southern Oregon, Oregon Wellness Retreat (Ashland) offers boutique comforts, spa support, and an intimate privacy that lets this work flourish. Nature here invites romance, relaxes the body and mind, and lifts you out of everyday monotony. Private Time + Integration Unlike singles workshops, at Love Alchemy you'll practice in session and then deepen in your room. We call it Play-work (because it's way more fun than any homework): think sensual, connecting tantric massage and simple rituals. We'll reconvene for group share - celebrating highlights and tending to sticky spots - always with consent and choice. Partnered Empowerment In this modern, trauma-informed approach to Tantra, thriving relationships are built on self-responsibility for: your pleasure, your desire, your boundaries, your heart, your triggers, and your passion & purpose.
Melanie Bonk
Billy
Jacqui
Kelly
Price
$4,885.00