Heart IQ Relationships & Sexuality Week

How Heart IQ Can Support and Transform Your Relationship

Heart IQ brings men and women together to heal wounds, trauma, and neglect in a supportive community. From that place of greater wholeness, participants are guided to develop practical communication skills: how to ask for their needs to be met, and how to move through disappointment and conflict from the heart. With this foundation of healing and heart-centered communication, the work then expands into the emotional and energetic qualities of the inner sacred masculine and feminine, opening the way to conscious polarity and using sexual connection as a gateway to deeper intimacy.

At this week-long event, Christian Pankhurst, Founder of Heart IQ, introduces the deeper principles behind the relationship model and offers a journey into what it means to create a Heart IQ relationship. Whether you are already in a relationship or feel ready to attract a partner who can truly meet you, this Relationship & Sexuality Week at New Eden, part of the Awakened Living Project, offers a powerful invitation to explore what is possible.

This is a 20-hour workshop designed to bring the clarity and strength of Heart Intelligence into intimate relationships. Over 5 days, Monday to Friday, you will take part in interactive exercises and group discussions that support the development of new skills for intimacy and conflict resolution. Through heart-centered communication and embodiment practices, you can create meaningful shifts in emotional, energetic, and physical connection.

Led by Christian Pankhurst, the program highlights the seven essential ingredients for creating a vibrant, lasting relationship. It offers a new foundation for rebuilding passion, excitement, and longing, while helping you see where you may have settled for less than you truly want. You will also receive guidance to reset your expectations in alignment with the unrestricted intimacy you have been longing for.

The group setting is designed to create a strong sense of safety as you explore your relationship experience. You will be witnessed in a loving community of people who understand the challenges of intimacy and can support you in meeting them with fresh insight. Day by day, trust deepens, defenses soften, conflicts often ease or resolve, and hearts open again.

Note: This event is focused on couples, as well as people who are in a relationship but attending without their partner. Singles who are exploring their readiness to claim more of what they want in their next relationship are also welcome.

Registration Fee: €990 per couple or €495 per single ticket (excludes meals & accommodation)

Price Breakdown:

• Food & Accommodation: €500
• Facilitator Training: €395
• New Eden Experience: €100

TOTAL: €995

Development of Relationship Dysfunction: A Model

Inspired by the work of Dr Charlotte Kasl, PhD, this model helps explain why relationships can awaken so much pain and why they often struggle without the right guidance and support.

Relationship dysfunction progresses through the following stages:

• Victimization
• Development of Core Beliefs
• Cultural, family and genetic filter
• Beliefs to reduce anxiety
• Operational beliefs
• Addiction and Co-dependency

Stage 1: Victimization

Victimization includes neglect, abuse, or betrayal that leaves a child’s basic needs unmet or violates the child’s body, mind, or spirit. It may come through intentional abuse or through ignorance, death, accidents, war, catastrophe, early hospitalization, or isolation. While all parents make mistakes, victimization reflects a repeated inability to respond to a child’s emotional and physical needs, and in some cases, overt abuse. Over time, this creates emptiness, unmet longing, and hunger that can become the force behind deeper addictions.

Stage 2: The Development of Core Beliefs

When a child is abused, neglected, or abandoned, terror, anger, and sadness arise. If no one responds, the child may conclude that the feelings themselves are bad, and eventually turn that into “I am bad.” This can develop into shame-based identity and a painful inner script shaped by negative beliefs. The child may feel guilty for an unnamed crime and believe punishment is deserved. Even when parents are physically present, unmet emotional and physical needs can create the belief that abandonment will always return.

The most common negative core beliefs include:

• I am defective. I am shameful. There's something wrong with me.
• I'll never be loved for myself.
• I am powerless over my life
• I am unwanted
• I will always be abandoned. I will always be alone.
• My body is damaged/defective/shameful.

Stage 3: Cultural, family, and genetic filter

When vulnerability has been betrayed, a child looks for ways to reduce pain and regain a sense of control. Survival strategies emerge naturally, shaped by family, experience, temperament, chance, education, and cultural messages influenced by class, ethnicity, religion, education, and media. A child may try to become cute, competent, smart, or athletic, or take on the role of troublemaker or loser in an attempt to stop the hurt and secure attention.

Stage 4: Beliefs to reduce anxiety

Negative core beliefs create fear, anxiety, depression, and a sense of devastation. To escape that inner pain, survival instincts search for beliefs that reduce vulnerability. These beliefs often shape whether a person moves toward sexual codependency or sex addiction. Common anxiety-reducing beliefs include: “I don’t need anyone,” “I don’t care about these people,” “I’m tough,” and “I can do it myself.”

Stage 5: Operational beliefs

Operational beliefs turn core beliefs into action. Over time, they become behavioral strategies meant to create the illusion of feeling wanted, powerful, attractive, lovable, or secure. For example, “I am powerless” may become “I am powerful when I seduce someone.” For the codependent, “I am powerless over my life” may become “I’ll find security in a partner.” These beliefs can feel like survival tools, yet they are often built on a faulty foundation.